Co Dependant Relationship
Healthy Relationship: In a healthy relationship, both partners mutually bond with and rely on each other in a safe and appropriate way, and satisfy each other needs
Co-dependant Relationship: It is a relationship in which one partner, known as “the co-dependent person“, has an unhealthy need to be needed, and the other partner, known as “the enabler“, exploits this need by making excessive demands on the codependant person.
A co-dependent relationship is an unhealthy and imbalanced pattern of behavior in which you find yourself dependent on approval from your partner for your self-worth and identity.
Co-dependant people have good intentions. They try to take care of a person who, they perceive, is experiencing difficulty. They see the partner as a bird with a broken wing that they want to heal. They feel that they can make the person better. However, the caretaking becomes compulsive and defeating. A co-dependant relationship can result in a dysfunctional marriage.
The co-dependent person perceives self-worth and self-esteem based on the degree to which he/she is needed by the enabler. The enabler gets satisfaction out of having their needs constantly fulfilled and encourages the partner’s dependancy by fostering guilt.
Co-dependent persons have low self-esteem and look for anything outside of themselves to make them feel better. They find it hard to be themselves.They often suffer from severe anxiety and may be depressed. Some try to overcome their anxiety and depression through alcohol, drugs or nicotine – and become addicted.
Treatment involves psychotherapy and counselling. Medication may be required to treat anxiety and depression in order for the person to be able to think calmly and clearly through the therapy process.